The Adventures of Anastasiya Didok

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Month: March, 2014

52 Books series. Week 10. “Eat, Pray, Love.” Elizabeth Gilbert

This book is also not mine, so I will be soon mailing it back to my friend, who kindly let me borrow it about… 5 years ago or so?

To be honest I was disappointed after finishing this book because it turned out to be so much less than what it was hyped up to be. All the buzz around it made the book sound very promising, but I ended up only liking one part of it. The Eat.

The book is about a woman who discovers that her husband is cheating on her by someone submitting a book about it for review to her (she is a book reviewer). After a nasty divorce, she pretty much starts over with nothing. I feel like lately getting divorced and starting from nothing has been over romanticized. I didn’t particularly enjoy the part where she is basically taken for a fool. Probably because I’m afraid of that happening to me deep down inside. What woman isn’t? Dealing with the truth is easy. It’s realizing that something that you thought was the truth was a web of lies that is so heartbreaking.

The part of the book that I did like was her taking the time to eat in Italy. I love food. I coined a saying “love cannot replace food,” and I will always stand by it. When I read the book I was somewhat surprised that it was that part that I liked the most. But the other two parts were disappointing. They were sort of similar to each other and I didn’t feel like there was a point to them. In addition, there is more disappointment that she faces in those parts. Basically I didn’t relate or wasn’t in the right mood.

It’s 10pm here in Seattle right now and I’m barely getting this post in on still my Thursday. It’s been a long day, but I still managed to get this post in, no matter how brief and not upbeat it may be. Feeling accomplished 🙂

52 Books Series. Week 9. “Three Cups of Tea” by Greg Mortenson, David Oliver Relin

This book is part of five others that I borrowed from a friend. It’s the only one that I actually read, but I’m going to make it a goal today to mail them all back to her and free up some space on my bookshelf. I doubt that I will get to others anytime soon, although they are good books. Once it’s time to read them, I will opt either for a library or for owning them myself. The fact that I have other people’s books just sitting there is weighing me down, although my wonderful friend has never mentioned a word to me about keeping them for over a year.

“Three Cups of Tea” was very educational for me. It is about a man who goes climbing a mountain in Pakistan and stumbles on a village where he figures out that there isn’t a school. He promises to return to build one, and actually does so. The book is about his struggle to raise finances for the project, as well as to actually get it accomplished in a country he knows nothing about.

I found the cultural depiction of Pakistan fascinating. I’ve never researched that country in-depth, but have another friend who is dying to go there. After reading “Three Cups of Tea,” I got a clearer picture of why her heart is in that country. The book also inspired me to reconsider my priorities in life, and explore what is stopping me from accomplishing my calling.

“Three Cups of Tea” was interesting and easy to read, but didn’t quite have an ending, since it’s a depiction of an actual person’s life. I believe there is now a sequel. The only thing that I didn’t enjoy about the book was its political undertone. While the plot is meant to depict a real man’s journey and struggle, it still works to establish a certain outlook on the world events. Perhaps because I don’t agree with that specific outlook, I didn’t enjoy the slight push towards it. Or maybe it made me feel like someone is trying to manipulate me into seeing things their way, instead of boldly stepping out and saying what they believe in. In any case, I didn’t like the influence, although I understand that most books are written in order to communicate a certain stance and to influence people to agree with it, even if the authors are not aware of it consciously. I believe that this one was planned though, since the second author is an investigative journalist.

I would recommend this book any day.

Proverbs 31 Woman: Misconception #2 – She is a compilation of multiple women

Along side the misconception that the Proverbs 31 woman is a stay-at-home mom who cooks and cleans, I ran into another one: that the Proverbs 31 woman is a collection of women because no single lady could possible accomplish as much as she does. This misconception lies in not looking into the passage in-depth enough. I believe that if the Proverbs 31 woman was a collection of characters, the bible would have mentioned something about it, and that simply thinking that what’s on her plate is too much to handle is not reason enough to deduce that she is multiple people.

Besides, I don’t think there is too much on her plate. From what I am reading, she has a main business of making linen garments, supplemented by being a middle man between the tradesmen she deals with and someone else. From what she makes from that she later plants a vineyard. She also seems to make time to work out and cook breakfast for her immediate family. Sounds like any driven woman these days to me. I am deducing this from the following verses:

“She considers a field and buys it; with the fruit of her hands she plants a vineyard.” Proverbs 31:16
“She makes linen garments and sells them…” Proverbs 31:24
“She dresses herself with strength and makes her arms strong.” Proverbs 31:17

But what about the rest of the verses? Let’s take a brief look at each one that may be stumping you:
“She seeks wool and flax,and works with willing hands.” — in order to produce linen, you need flax. We will look at why she seeks wool in a later post.
“She puts her hands to the distaff,and her hands hold the spindle.” — this is what needs to happen to produce that same linen we talked about above.
“all her household are clothed in scarlet.” — IF she made her household’s clothes, it was a one-time deal and not something that takes up her time on a regular basis.
“She makes bed coverings for herself;her clothing is fine linen and purple.” — as in the case above, this is a one-time deal. I will write later why I don’t think she makes her own clothes or that of her household.
“she delivers sashes to the merchant.” — this is where I think the P31 woman serves solely as a supplier. It does not say that she makes the sashes, but possibly utilizes her connections with the merchants to get someone else’s work delivered to them. Either that, or the sashes ARE the linen garments that she makes. Stay tuned for finding out why she is so connected.

Did I miss any other verses that make it seem like the Proverbs 31 woman does more than a single person can handle?

Proverbs 31 Woman Misconception #1- She is a stay at home mom who cooks and cleans

Ladies this may come as a shock to those of you who have strived all your life to embody the Proverbs 31 woman as the ultimate homemaker. You may aspire to one day have your house as cleaned as hers and have three meals cooked for your family like she does every day. But let’s look into the passage again. Does she really do all that?

Here are the verses in the passage that correlate to cooking and cleaning:

“She is like the merchants’ ships; she bringeth her food from afar”. Proverbs 31:14

“She riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens”. Proverbs 31:15

“She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness”. Proverbs 31:27

The first verse I’m still somewhat confused about and haven’t quite looked into. However, what I deduce from it is that she imports foods that are not available in her region through either successful trade (about that a little later), or traveling to get it herself. What I do know for sure is that this verse in no way implies cooking that food.

From what I’m reading here, the most that the P31 woman may cook is breakfast for her immediate family. The ESV bible uses the word “provides.” She provides or gives meat/food for her household. It doesn’t necessarily mean she cooks it. It also says that she “rises while it is still  night” and does that. That would mean breakfast. Nowhere else does it mention that she also cooks lunch, dinner, and snacks. But wait, the next part of the verse might shine some clarity on the cleaning part of the story: she also provides portions (as in pay, not food!) for her maidens!!! That’s right. The P31 woman has hired helped that does the cooking and cleaning for her. What she actually does herself is “looks well to the ways of her household.” She is a good manager who delegates. She is not doing everything herself!

So to all the ladies who are beating themselves up because they just can’t reach the Proverbs 31 woman’s standard, stop it right now. This is an accusation that is probably wasting a lot of your energy that should be spent loving your family and enjoying life. Stay tuned to find out just how the Proverbs 31 woman got to the point of having hired help, and what it is that she actually does.

My love for the Proverbs 31 woman

I know that P31 scares some women and motivates others. I am most certainly in the “others” category, as this girl has built quite a fascinating life there for herself! I’ve read and re-read the passage hundreds of times, and recently got this brilliant idea to try to literally become like the woman in the passage! However, I did not completely understand it. In addition, when looking at different translations, the words I had my doubts about did not match up!

This lead me to do some more research on exactly what she does and who she is. What I’ve uncovered so far has been absolutely fascinating — nothing I’ve heard of before. I don’t recall hearing a sermon on Proverbs 31 in general, and what I learned through my best friend Google was most certainly not included in any sermons or studies I’ve found on the topic online.

Along with the fascinating discoveries in fashion, geography, and history, I’ve uncovered a ton of misconceptions about the Proverbs 31 woman. Some of them were irritating, some just didn’t dig far enough, some made me feel sorry for the women attempting to “chase” the P31 standard.

In the next few days I would like to do a series of posts on the P31 woman to share what I have discovered through my research. Stay tuned to find out more about the common misconceptions about this biblical character, a lesson in fashion, a study on shellfish, and what she has to do with Italy!